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Asking for money instead of traditional wedding gifts can feel a little tricky. You want to say it in a way that is kind and thoughtful without making anyone feel uncomfortable. The truth is, it has become very common. Most couples already live together and have everything they need, so a gift of money towards something meaningful often makes more sense.

Whether you are planning a honeymoon, saving for a home, or simply want a bit of support as you start married life, it is completely fine to ask. The key is in the wording. A gentle poem or short message goes a long way. It lets guests know what would be helpful, while still sounding warm and grateful.

Here are five wording ideas you can use. Choose the one that suits your style best.

Sweet and simple

Your presence at our wedding is the greatest gift of all

But if you wish to bless us with something big or small

A contribution to our future would truly mean a lot

As we make a little nest with the love that we have got

Travel themed

We have got our plates and pans and a kettle for our tea

So now we are saving up for our next adventure you see

If you would like to help us make our honeymoon dreams come true

A little gift of money would mean the world from you

Light and cheeky

If you were thinking of giving a gift to help us on our way

A little bit of money would really make our day

But only if you wish to there is no pressure at all

The best gift is your presence as we celebrate and have a ball

Classic and gracious

We are lucky to already have a home full of love and things

From furniture and glasses to pots and pans and rings

If you were thinking of a gift we would love a cash donation

To help us start our married life and plan a celebration

Romantic and sentimental

The most important gift to us is having you near

To share in the joy and the love and the cheer

But if you would like to help us start our life as newlyweds

A gift of a few coins would help us plan the steps ahead

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You can include one of these poems on a small card alongside your invitations, or add it to your wedding website if you have one. Keep the tone light and sincere. Most guests are just happy to be there and will appreciate the clarity.

This is not about asking for something extravagant. It is simply giving people the option to help in a way that feels meaningful to you. As long as it is said with kindness, it will be received with kindness too.

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