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Ask any couple what the most stressful part of planning their wedding has been, and chances are you will hear the same answer again and again. The table plan.

We see it all the time with our couples. The excitement of designing the day quickly turns into head-scratching over who sits where. And more often than not, the top table is the trickiest part to figure out.

The traditional setup usually includes the couple, both sets of parents, the maid of honour and the best man. But in reality, that format does not suit every couple anymore. Families look different now. People are closer to friends than relatives, parents are often remarried, and sometimes formality just does not feel right.

If that sounds like your situation, then you will be pleased to hear there are plenty of wonderful alternatives. You are not alone, and you absolutely do not need to follow tradition if it does not fit.

Here are some of our favourite ideas to help you rethink the top table entirely.

The Sweetheart Table

This is a beautifully simple idea that works for lots of couples. Just the two of you, seated at your own table facing your guests. It gives you a quiet moment together and removes the pressure of who to include and who might feel left out. You are also more likely to soak up the day and take in everything around you. For couples who value a little peace in the middle of the celebrations, this one is a winner.

The Wedding Party Table

If your family setup is complicated or just too large to seat everyone together, a table made up of your closest wedding party might be the way to go. Bridesmaids, groomsmen and anyone who has stood by you throughout your planning journey can join you for a fun and relaxed meal. You can then give parents and stepparents the honour of hosting their own tables nearby, which still feels special and avoids difficult decisions.

A Banqueting Style Layout

Looking to move away from the usual top table at the front? Go for a long banqueting table that runs through the centre of the space. This can create a really inclusive atmosphere where everyone feels part of the celebration. It is ideal for rustic or informal weddings, especially when decorated with flowing greenery, soft candlelight and elegant table runners. You can sit anywhere along the table and still feel central to the action.

The Round Top Table

A round table can make all the difference if you want something that feels more relaxed. It encourages conversation, takes the pressure off whoever is sitting next to who, and helps everyone feel at ease. This option is especially useful if there are any tensions or awkward dynamics among the people you would like to include. You still remain a focal point in the room, just without the formality of a straight line table.

The Lounge Style Table

For couples planning a more informal or intimate wedding, this idea is a standout. Create a relaxed corner with soft seating, low tables and a few favourite people. Think more living room than banquet hall. This setup works especially well for venues with a more contemporary or rustic feel, and it brings a lovely warmth to the space. It is also a great option if you want a seated area for speeches that feels comfortable and stylish rather than staged.

The Sibling Table

If you are particularly close to your brothers and sisters, this one might feel like the most natural choice of all. Surround yourselves with the people who have known you your entire life and who will no doubt bring laughter and love to the table. This setup is full of personality and often leads to some of the most relaxed and memorable moments during dinner. It is a sweet way to celebrate family without having to juggle formal expectations.

At the end of the day, there is no rulebook for how your wedding should look. The most important thing is that it feels right for you. If a traditional top table fits, go for it. But if it causes stress or just does not feel like your style, know that there are so many other options that can work beautifully.

Your guests are there to celebrate your love, not your seating plan. So give yourself permission to break tradition and create a setup that feels authentic, relaxed and full of joy.

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